The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.  Baca segera dalam buku ini!

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, th at improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—”not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.


I’m not one for self-help books, but this one spoke to me: “The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”

I don’t know how to review this book without typing out the whole book, so I’m going to try something different: to be brief. This book provides support for someone who wants to live in reality, someone who doesn’t want to buy into our national capitalist mindset that life is about chasing one high after another. This book encourages you to embrace conflict, to be comfortable feeling uncomfortable, and to be confident in finding out what you truly believe in, then standing up for it. Fuck being likeable. Take responsibility for your own life, stop trying to solve other’s problems (a big one for me to work on!), ask questions, and always try to make things better. “Happiness is a struggle.”

My one criticism of this book eventually turned into a positive. Around Chapter Six my interest started to wane because Manson provided me with very little I didn’t already know. Plus, he shares his own story about entering his adult life at “rock bottom.” His life’s lowest points: getting caught with marijuana at school, his parents’ divorce, not finding a job immediately after college.

My initial reaction was, are you fucking kidding me? If that’s rock bottom, my life exists in a subterranean cavern. However, Mark Manson’s life is not mine. Everyone’s experiences are subjective. And, in a way, I admire him even more because of our differences. He led an easy life compared to mine, but he recognized his own privileges and entitlements and worked toward fixing them. Then, he took his own personal realizations about life and shared them in this book, which in turn helps me and others.

I rarely read a book that makes me want to thank the author, but — Thanks for this, Mark.


I bought this book to check out what the fuss is all about. Everyone just can’t stop talking about this book, even my friends were whining about this book. I have seen celebrities reading this book. And bookstgramers, they can’t have enough of this book so I finally decided to try it. After reading it, I finally got it why everyone is so obsessed about this book.

I personally have read so many self-help books but haven’t read anything like this book. Most self-help book will tell you to do yoga, be calm, be happy in all situation, you are special, you are right, be certain, say yes to everything, your soul is eternal and so on. Stuff like this is nice to read but it’s not pragmatic, and this book tells exactly opposite of that and still makes you improve your self.

In the modern fast-paced life you can’t say yes to everything and everyone cause if that’s the case people will eat you alive, this book tells you a practical way of living life, what you should give a fuck about and what you should not.

This book has changed my entire persona of seeing life. All this book says is to find a bigger fuck to give a fuck about. This book also be able to help you if you are having an existential crisis and give you perspective to look at your problems differently.

Millennials like me are not very much into reading a book especially a self-help. But the language of this book is such that millennials would actually love to read it. This book hits number 1 in my top 10 of self-help books.

So all and all if you are millennial or not, you’re having an existential crisis or not, you like a self-help book or not, you give way to much fuck about everything or not at all, in my opinion, everyone should read this book at least once.

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